Spanking your children

July 11th, 2005, 08:56 PM

My parents never really had to spank me-- only a few times. They taught me right from wrong just by being involved parents.

**imported_trumpet1988** · July 11th, 2005, 08:59 PM

If there were more discipline there wouldn't be so much rebellion.

**Jason** · July 11th, 2005, 10:56 PM

In my opinion spanking for some thing and taking things away for some things work well. Once at church my daughter was acting up and everytime me or my wife would tell her to stop she would run and do it more. I got up and took her to the bathroom and told her she was getting a spanking for what she was doing and give her one. I waited a minute and took her back in and she was as good as she could be. IMO that was the right time for a spanking. Then there are times when taking something away from her does better than a spanking.

**PVVikeFan** · July 11th, 2005, 11:00 PM

Different things work for different people and different children. Raising children is a trial and error thing. You have to find what works and use it.

**Jason** · July 11th, 2005, 11:05 PM

Aint that the truth! I have seen some kids that no matter what their parents do the kid seems to get worse.

**imported_MoonlightGraham** · July 11th, 2005, 11:40 PM

how hard is it to spank a kid the first time...i mean really, knowing you have to do it, but also being scared.

**imported_ut1** · July 12th, 2005, 05:57 AM

I never really knew what "This is going to hurt me more than it is you" meant until that first spanking I gave my oldest daughter. No wonder parents don't want to use it!
But I agree with PVVikeFan and Hunter...different things work. As my kids got older, spanking was less of a threat and stuff like revoked phone privileges was.
Since we were on this subject, I polled my kids at dinner last night to see if I were right in assuming that they would use spanking as an option with their childen. 100% for, 0 % against. [img]/LDPforum/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

**imported_MoonlightGraham** · July 12th, 2005, 10:01 AM

of course you was also holding a belt in your hand at the time lol.

**imported_ut1** · July 12th, 2005, 01:07 PM

Nah....they're big enough to whip me now. [img]/LDPforum/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

July 12th, 2005, 08:06 PM

I think it varies with each child and also with ages. As a child gets older, well it changes.
The more they lose, the harder it is on them, and it makes them realize right from wrong.
One thing i have seen helping out in sports and youth programs.
I think it took parents awhile to realize. Sending their kids to their room was a bit of a joke, until they realized, ok have to take the phone away from room, the computer, and the playstations etc.
Leave a kid with a little time to think, sometimes they realize, i messed up.
Younger i think spankings have to be a part of it. I did say spankings not beatings. A tap on the behind never killed any child.
It may of gotten your attention but what do you take away from a 3-5 yr old? And time outs work for a period. But most kids will get bored and honestly, if they can't tell you what they done wrong, well what did they learn?
I was raised up in the house where mom spanked and if you ran from mom. Well dad's belt would be there when he got home.
I never got beaten. But i learned a lot. One was what i shouldn't do before i got into trouble and the other. You can run. But sooner or later. You pay for it. Either way. And i think that plays out in real life.
You can tell a lot of children who have no real discipline, their actions and attitude talk volumes.